My Heart and Other Black Holes Book Review

I still struggle a bit for words when it comes to Jasmine Warga‘s My Heart and Other Black Holes. Before buying the book, I’ve heard a lot of good things about it and I was worried I might not like it because of the hype that surrounds the book. Man, am I glad that was not the case! This review includes minor Spoilers!


My Heart and Other Black Holes revolves around 16-year-old physics nerd Aysel, who wants nothing more than to die. Yet, Aysel is afraid she won’t be able to do it on her own, so she searches the interwebs for a suicide partner. Coincidentally, a sporty and popular boy from a neighboring town, very much the opposite of her, is in a similar situation. Together they decide to help each other die, butย in truth their relationship could change everything.

I guess my summary isn’t as perfect as the one on goodreads, but it’s succinct just the way I like it. So, where do I begin now? It’s such a smart, special, weird, insightful, sad but hopeful read. I went through it all rather quickly, even though the story had me close to tears several times. Never did I expect a book about potential suicide to harbour so much hope! It’s rare to find a person who truly and completely gets you and not just the good parts, but genuinely everything – Aysel and Roman seem to have had realย luck in that department.

Depression is a serious topic and should not be treated lightly. Jasmine Warga manages this all extremely well in her debut novel. I cared and understood the characters from beginning ’til end and I like that she had such an easy style of writing. It was very much like people think and talk. Aysel had such an odd mix of a vivid, heartbreaking and at times hilarious voice and that made the heavy topic more relatable and bearable. Also, I really enjoyed her inclusion of poetry (such as John Milton‘s Paradise Lost) as well asย Einstein‘s Theory of Relativity. It gave those sources new meaning as well.

If I had to complain about something, and this is seriously a minor “issue”, I think that I would have liked it a bit better if Aysel and Roman hadn’t fallen in love but rather just stayed friends. It’s not really bothering me and it definitely doesn’t hurt the story, but I just feel like it’s important to know that you can get out of a depression like that with the help of friends and not just finding true love.

Fazit: very authentic and heartbreaking story with a happy ending!

I’d love to read some more of Jasmine Warga in the future. I can imagine great things coming from her!



22 thoughts on “My Heart and Other Black Holes Book Review

  1. You’re right about the Roman/Aysel romance not being exactly necessary, but I think she used it well, because he knew he liked her and he still maintained that “it doesn’t change anything”, he wasn’t at a place that even “true love” could help… that’s kind of sad. She however just really needed for somebody, anybody, to see her differently, so she could do the same. I loved this book to pieces.


    • I think she didn’t overdo it either! That’s why I said it’s really only a minor thing. Everything you said is true and as I mentioned it’s not like bothering me the whole time or anything like that. I just thought it would’ve been nice if it were just about friendship.
      Sorry I didn’t read your review earlier. I didn’t want to get spoilered. But you mentioned you hadn’t read books about teenage suicide before, right?
      There was a time when nearly every book I bought included someone wanting to or actually committing suicide and my mum was really worried, but it wasn’t even on purpose. Still, sometimes those reads can be really depressing and My Heart and Other Black Holes definitely was hope-inspiring.


      • Exactly, I think she made the most wise choices while writing this book and I want another from her… soon!

        I got why you haven’t read it ๐Ÿ˜‰ totally normal.

        I had never read one, seriously, but you’re right, you can’t help but feel hopeful when you finish this one.


      • I’m really looking forward to more from her as well!
        I’ve read 13 Reasons Why and that book just brought me down. It had such good reviews, but it’s really not amongst my favourites. Then there was The Sense of an Ending, which wasn’t about teens though. Also, not a recommendation of mine. It was an odd time.


      • 13 Reasons why is about teen suicide?! I saw that book on goodreads and it has a good scoring, but I did not read the description… I’m kind of glad. Yeah, those don’t seem like books I’ll be reading =/


      • Yep, I don’t think you’ll miss out on anything.
        I now remember the other books that I read at the same time.
        A Long Way Down by Nick Hornby, which was rather good but also about people trying to kill themselves. And The Time Keeper by Mitch Albom, which isn’t about suicide but touches upon the topic as well. That’s a brilliant book. If you haven’t read it, it’s superb!


      • Oh man, I hated writing my thesis papers. I was lucky that they didn’t have to be very long otherwise I would’ve gone insane. I’m sure you’re going to get through it though!


      • it’s not like I have a really big choice, I either end it or end it, and I don’t want to take much more time than the one I have. I’ll relax a bit more as soon as I finish the lab work, which unfortunately its end is not in sight.


      • I always used to say the same. I’ll relax when I’m done with uni. That’s actually really close for me now and I’m freaking out because I don’t have a real plan. I always either went to school or worked. I barely ever just did โ€ฆ well nothing. So traveling will be fun this summer and then I have to actually consider being a grown up. I hope I find a job I really like! (Preferably in the UK, the US or Canada! lol)


      • well, it seems to me like you have a plan! That’s a good plan actually ๐Ÿ˜‰
        you should enjoy your summer for real, you have the rest of your life to be a real grown up.
        I don’t know any reality that doesn’t involve coming to the university almost every single day, and honestly, I hope I never have to.


      • Thank you ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m trying my best!
        Well, is there a job at the university for you? Is it realistic to stay there? If so, I wish you all the best with it ๐Ÿ™‚

        I tweeted about My Heart and Other Black Holes and Jasmine Warga responded and thanked me for reading the book! I thought I dreamed when I read the notification.


      • OMG!!! you and twitter!!! ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

        I don’t want to stay at this university, I want to keep going and do a post-doc somewhere else (Germany, UK, Denmark, any of those). That’s how it is in research… grants, and post docs… ๐Ÿ˜€


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